What's up World? I'm back with another Wednesday joint for you. We have been looking at positive game-changers in the bible but I want to hit you ladies in the head with a whole other concept. What happens when we encounter or become a negative game-changer, or in this article...a Delilah?
So let's recline one time, you know, go back. Ok so Samson was a Nazarite, He made a vow to God and his hair was symbolic of his vow. He was on the market for a bae-thing and he saw Delilah and was digging her vibes. In all actuality, God saw that the Philistines were running things in Israel and since He wasn’t feeling it, He decided to stir the pot with Samson as his spoon to regain control from the evil that was lurking. See, Samson was one dope spoon because, in his vow creation, he gained superhuman and unfathomable physical strength. The bible states, Samson’s hair was symbolic of his vow to God. His vow? To restore hope and faith to the oppressed (Israelites) by defeating the Philistines and restore control for the Kingdom. Here is the kicker: in the physical nature of the vow, Samson was not allowed to comb or cut his hair. If he did, the strength would leave his body, as a piece of him would at that time exhibit some sort of weakness.
Back to the woman aspect: Samson was digging Delilah’s physique. He didn’t much care for whether she was intelligent or cunning or even her hobbies, the last book she read, or her favorite flower. Honestly, she was cool with it because she had an agenda. Her people wanted her to take Samson out or at least make him less of a threat. I used to think that Delilah was a mean and spiteful woman, but if we dig deep and adapt her possible mindsets to our own, she was probably either seeking approval/acceptance from her family/home team and would fulfill this task because of how low her self-esteem was or how lonely she could have been. Energy never dies, it takes different forms. Fast forward to now. We all want to establish some sort of importance for ourselves and we get so caught up and lost in the struggle to mean something to someone other than ourselves that we do whatever we feel is required to secure our seat at the table. So she did what she did out of a necessity to belong. I don’t even think she knew the cataclysm or heaviness of what she was asked to do, she just knew that Philistines wanted to remain in control and that this fine man Samson threatened that. Also, she knew that if she could pull this off, she would be revered amongst her people. It truly was a win/win to her. But back to the story. Samson was triumphant no matter how many times he was set up by the Philistines. Their only way to his softness was Delilah. (Men are weak on us that way. One bat of the ol eyelashes and some of them are mush). Delilah laid with him so and he seemed to be mesmerized by the twist and sway of her hips. She used her womanly wiles and asked him multiple times what fueled his strength. When she didn’t get her answer immediately, she challenged him by saying that he didn’t love her. (insert Regina King’s performance as Margie in Ray when she asked Ray (Jamie Foxx) to try his magic (drugs) because she wanted his gift of sight). He, of course, retorted that he did love her and eventually gave in and told her what made him so strong after strong coercion and stress-filled proclamations of her distrust of him because of her belief of him not loving her. Immediately, the strength left his body, rendering him defenseless against the powerful army.
I examined Delilah carefully because we tend to displace any type of connection to Delilah as women of God, We say that there could never be a shred of her in us, that we are in no way truly connected to her when all she was a beautiful woman with insecurities and inadequacy issues. We all have them. We have all had a man look at us in his glory and render our knees weak because he wanted us and in all our inadequacies and shortcomings, sometimes it is just necessary to feel wanted not just be wanted, but to honestly feel wanted. For whatever reason, for whatever meaning, in whatever capacity. As little girls, we dream of being wanted by a husband and we dream that we will have the fairytale life and as we grow up, make decisions that affect our futures and, eventually wake up in reality, we realize that fairytales are just that...fairytales. We wipe the stardust off of our faces and the tears from our eyes and realize that we have spent time becoming ourselves. In our unhappiness and insecurities, we make decisions in haste. We become Delilah and we change the game and end up losing. I just want to tell you ladies from a recovering Delilah, never allow others to determine your worth so much so that you forget who you are and Who created you. We are beautifully human but also more than that: beautifully women and beautifully whole. We are not inadequate, insecure, insignificant, or small. We are huge in God’s eyes. We should always be seeking His approval over that of man. We are princesses and queens to the King and that will never change. Honor HIm but owning what it is to be you and who you are within. Delilahs are temporary desires. Strive to be more substantial than that. ‘