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Finding and keeping a good Black man in a relationship has become a cottage industryFrom celebrities and reality TV stars to social media influencers, for better or worse, there is no shortage of relationship advice to people seeking to figure out Black men.

And while much of this content is understood to be for entertainment purposes only, some of it is presented and received as legitimate and data-driven.

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There is not a marriage counselor, self-help book, or marriage retreat that can save a marriage as much as the Bible. God’s Word is equipped to provide help for whatever circumstances we face while married.

Here are ten verses that can help to save and heal your struggling marriage. They are verses to remind us what love is and what God has created in your union with your spouse.

1. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

“Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not pu

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I’m a scorekeeper. I’m competitive by nature. I like to win. Even if I’m playing “Go Fish” with my kids, I play to win. When I first got married 12 years ago, I liked to see an even playing field for everything. I’ll cook, he can clean. I’ll do laundry, he can do dry cleaning. When kids came into the picture, I’ll do baths on M/W/F, he can do baths on T/Th/S. I’ll wake up early with the kids on Saturday, he can wake up early on Sunday. Seems blissful, right? Seems like a great partnership, rig

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In my previous article, I asked why do Christian men date and marry outside of the church. Referencing some of the high profile Christian pastors and leaders who have turned to Hollywood to find their mates (Pastor Devon Franklin and actress Meagan Good, Gospel artist Israel Houghton and singer/talk show host Adrienne Bailon, Pastor Jamal Bryant and R&B singer Tweet, etc.).

In that article, I talked to single Christian women to get the reasons they’ve encountered as to why they were being ov

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Donnie McClurkin, the pastor and gospel music singer who said God delivered him from “the curse” of homosexuality, is now under fire from critics after speaking out against last Friday’s U.S. Supreme Court ruling which made same-sex marriage legal nationwide.

McClurkin, 55, received some harsh criticism after he shared his interpretation of the Bible’s position on homosexuality on Facebook last Friday.

“We’ve just received the answer from man’s Supreme Court … we already received the answer

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Arnold Schwarzenegger didn’t hold back in an interview with Howard Stern on Wednesday, detailing the emotional toll of the collapse of his marriage.

The actor was promoting his new film “Terminator Genisys,” although the five-time Mr. Universe spoke about much more than his famous robotic role.

When Stern asked whether the breakup was Schwarzenegger’s first real personal setback, the actor said it was entirely his fault.

“That was, without any doubt, the biggest setback and the biggest failu

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As I write this, the Supreme Court has handed down what will be the “Roe v. Wade” of marriage, redefining marriage in all 50 states. This is a sober moment, and I am a conscientious dissenter from this ruling. The Court now has disregarded thousands of years of definition of the most foundational unit of society, and the cultural changes here will be broad and deep. So how should the church respond?

First of all, the church should not panic. The Supreme Court can do many things, but the Supr

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Solange Knowles will marry longtime boyfriend Alan Ferguson in New Orleans this Sunday

Solange Knowles is set to marry her longtime video director boyfriend Alan Ferguson on Sunday.

The 28-year-old DJ, who has managed to keep her relationship and engagement rather private – will be tying the knot in New Orleans, in the home she shares with Alan and her 10-year-old son Julez.

UsWeekly reports the younger sister of Beyonce will marry her beau in front of friends and family after a weekend of ce

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Pastors generally believe same-sex marriage and abortion are wrong, but most of them won’t talk to their congregations about it for fear of losing members.

That’s a basic takeaway from a recent Barna Group study. Research expert George Barna was on American Family Radio’s Today’s Issues broadcast to discuss what he discovered.

“What we’re finding is that when we ask them about all the key issues of the day, [90 percent of them are] telling us, ‘Yes, the Bible speaks to every one of these is

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“Preachers of LA” star Deitrick Haddon has upset members of the faith community by saying on national television that co-habitation before marriage is okay.

During an Oxygen special last week, the 41-year-old argued that there are “different reasons” he deems acceptable for shacking up. But EEW Magazine’s President Dianna Hobbs weighed in, calling it “bad advice.”

During a network special that aired last week, ahead of the Season 2 premiere of the controversial reality show, th

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Many of us live in conflict. This is sad, but true.

It is particularly sad because we all want so desperately to live in peace. We want lives free from conflict.

I think we do many things wrong, that end up causing us even more conflict. While most of us don’t go looking for a fight, I’m not sure how much effort people expend to be ‘peace makers,’ or even ‘peace keepers.’

“I just want to live in peace,” a fifty-year old man recently said to me. “I’ve been at odds with my wife for years. I just

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Dear Demetria:

I am the mother of two. I have an amazing husband and father to my children. The last child is not his, and he is unaware. His best friend and I had a one-night stand two years ago when my hubby was out of town. I can’t bring myself to come clean.

I just started going to therapy about this. The guilt is making me miserable. I feel honesty would break our whole family apart. I’m afraid to find out what my husband may do. —Anonymous

My grandmother had a saying about truth:

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Relationship Detox

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Do you ever feel like you want a break from marriage or relationships? Do you ever experience a time when you want to step back, experience peace and quiet, and just reflect?

Most would answer these questions with a resounding ‘YES.’

Most would say they are desperate for some peace and quiet, some time apart from the challenges of raising children, fighting with their mate or ongoing drama with friends and family. They want to think clearly again, free from the emotional and physical pain tha

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More often than not, affairs don’t just happen. Oh, sure, sometimes they do, but there are usually things that are said or not said, done or not done, over the years that are contributing factors.

Also, while I’m not suggesting that the husband or wife who has the affair is in any way justified in doing so, a lot of the time the other spouse has helped to push them in that direction. My wife, Susan, and I often say, “In marriage, there are two people and two sides to every story.”

The same h

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Gallup recently released some statistics showing that married people have a higher well-being index than people of other relationship statuses.

What does that mean in laymen’s terms? The Gallup-Healthways Well-Being Index includes emotional health, physical health, mental health, as well as workplace performance.

When I stumbled upon this information I was quite bewildered because this study seems to suggest an inverted perspective of what contemporary culture thinks of committed

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“Remember that whatever you do in life, ninety percent of it is half mental.”
- Yogi Berra

In November of the tenth year of our marriage, Rhonda and I were discussing a sensitive issue that comes up every year: where we were going to spend Christmas.

By this time in our marriage, we knew which topics created sparks, and this was one of them. As a result, we were both armed for battle.

Rhonda responded to a statement I’d made by saying, “Now you’ve got an attitude. Stop talking to me like I’m a

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An ex-Southern Baptist church in rural Kentucky will host same-sex wedding ceremonies despite gay marriage being illegal in the state.

Deacons at Louisville’s Highland Baptist Church recently voted to marry same-sex couples who are members of the church. However, senior Pastor Joe Phelps says the decision was made without the vote of the congregation.

“Part of the mission of Deacons at Highland Baptist Church is discernment, where an elected body of members serves as a voice for the congregat

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Thirty years ago this week, I stood at a church altar in Gainesville, Fla., and pledged my life to Deborah Delk. We didn’t have a lot of money since I was working for a Christian campus ministry, but Deborah didn’t care that all our worldly possessions could fit easily in my 1980 Honda Civic. She loved me, I loved her, and we knew Jesus had brought us together. That’s really all we needed to start life together.

Our marriage has never been perfect (we had our first argument after we got ba

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In our new book, Red Hot Romance Tips for Women, we look at the 26 traits, A to Z, that makes a wife more desirable to her husband. Because you are a wife who values love, or recognizes the significance of your man, you are looking for a few more creative ideas to fan the flame on love. You long to keep that spark and sizzle in your love life! In your heart is a desire to help your man feel like the luckiest, most blessed male on the face of the globe because he had to good sense to marry YOU

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Ephesians 5:22 "Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord."

Candace Cameron Bure has gotten some attention from the media lately in her book , "Balancing It All" , she writes of submitting to her husband.

In today's culture the word submission often has a negative connotation. After all, the woman of today is supposed to be "equal" to her male counterpart and the idea of submitting to a man often brings negative images of abuse to mind. God does not give permission for m
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