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“Preachers of LA” star Deitrick Haddon has upset members of the faith community by saying on national television that co-habitation before marriage is okay.

During an Oxygen special last week, the 41-year-old argued that there are “different reasons” he deems acceptable for shacking up. But EEW Magazine’s President Dianna Hobbs weighed in, calling it “bad advice.”

During a network special that aired last week, ahead of the Season 2 premiere of the controversial reality show, th

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Do you prompt the members of your congregation to invite people to church? (Lightstock)

Several years ago, more than one study showed large percentages of unchurched would consider attending a church if someone simply invited them. The problem is not the attitude of the unchurched; rather, it is often the failure of church members to invite others.

When my church consulting teams have asked church members about their reticence to invite others to church, here are 10 responses we have often h

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The following post contains details from the first and second seasons of Orange Is the New Black. (Don’t say we didn’t warn you.)

I love my Don Drapers and Walter Whites, but we were long overdue for a Piper Chapman. She’s the main character of Orange Is the New Black, a Brooklyn yuppie serving time for crimes committed in her adventurous youth (based on the real-life Piper Kerman, whose memoir inspired the show). Her story is not, at least after two seasons, a

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A Guide to True Beauty

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The Proverbs 31:10-31 woman is a model of a woman who lives a godly life. It is practical advice given by a mother to her single son about what to look for in a future wife. Therefore, it is advice for single women as well as married women. I was single for over twenty years of my adult life. Now I am married so I might be able to offer insights for both single and married women.

Most of all, this idyllic icon is a woman who decides to learn and grow in all the areas of her life. She protects

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Dear Demetria:

I am the mother of two. I have an amazing husband and father to my children. The last child is not his, and he is unaware. His best friend and I had a one-night stand two years ago when my hubby was out of town. I can’t bring myself to come clean.

I just started going to therapy about this. The guilt is making me miserable. I feel honesty would break our whole family apart. I’m afraid to find out what my husband may do. —Anonymous

My grandmother had a saying about truth:

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Sakinah Muhammad
COURTESY OF COLLEGE BOUND

My Thing Is: My College Bound partner is almost like another parent, and I know I couldn’t have done this without her. I want to help another kid the way she helped me. 

My name is Sakinah Muhammad. I graduated from Temple University in May as a criminal-justice major with a minor in psychology. My next step is working for Houston Teach for America Corps while I attend graduate school at St. Thomas University. So much of where I am now is because of w

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Fifty-seven percent of Americans say that religion can answer all or most of today’s problems, while 30% say that religion is largely old fashioned and out of date. Americans have in recent decades become gradually less likely to say that religion can answer today’s problems and more likely to believe religion is out of date.

Do you believe that religion can answer all or most of today's problems, or that religion is largely old fashioned and out of date?

The latest update on this long-term Gallup trend comes from Gallup’s May 8-11 Values and Beliefs survey. Gallup asked this question once in the 1950s, once in the 1970s,

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COURTESY OF KEITH BENJAMIN

As Father’s Day approaches, I recall that my father, Randall Keith Benjamin Sr., never sat my brothers and me down when we were kids and told us his entire life story. The memories that he shared with us about his childhood were more general summaries than detailed accounts.

But he’d offer occasional moments of exposure. In those times of vulnerability, he’d, seemingly by accident, allow once-suppressed nightm

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Jim Daly / Image: Courtesy of Focus in the Family

Focus on the Family’s Jim Daly has an encouraging message for fathers: You’re not defined by your past.

He grew up in a dysfunctional family and bounced through the foster care system, an unlikely background for someone destined to lead an evangelical family-equipping organization. But that’s just where Jim Daly finds himself today, as the President and CEO of Focus on the Family. Daly’s first book, Finding Home, detailed his difficult childho

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Bible preachers preached against sin. The prophets of the Old Testament, the apostles and preachers of the New Testament, even Jesus Christ Himself, preached boldly and definitely against sin. They preached not only against sin in general, but against sin in particular. They preached not only against the sin of unbelief, but they preached against stealing, lying, adultery, murder, hypocrisy, drunkenness, immodest dress, covetousness, and every sin that the most fervent and sensational evangeli

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Do you only listen to sermons that scratch your itching ears? (Flickr/Travis Isaacs)

Paul warned Timothy that the “time is coming when people will not endure sound teaching, but having itching ears they will accumulate for themselves teachers to suit their own passions, and will turn away from listening to the truth and wander off into myths” (2 Timothy 4:3-4).

That warning proved true in Timothy’s day, and it has proved true many times since, especially today, when we have a multitude of ea

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Move over L.A. Preachers, Preacher’s Daughters, Housewives , Hollywood Exes and Love and Hip Hop.

Here comes the holy truth!

There is a new show being kicked around that is set for air and signing any day now. It’s called Preacher’s Exes.

The cast of the Preacher’s Exes currently stands as Lynn Littlejohn, Ysidra M. Kyles, daughter of Church Of God In Christ (COGIC) in Houston, Texas Rufus Kyles, Rochelle Wallace, DiShan Winters, and Cheron K Griffin II.

In the teaser reel of the show Griffin

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The Bible command for preachers is “Preach the Word.” Naturally the same verse says, “Reprove, rebuke, exhort with all longsuffering and doctrine” (II Timothy 4:2). One cannot preach all the Word without reproving and rebuking.

Second Timothy 3:16 says, “All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness.” That verse says that all Scripture is given by inspiration, yes; but it says much more than that. It

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More often than not, affairs don’t just happen. Oh, sure, sometimes they do, but there are usually things that are said or not said, done or not done, over the years that are contributing factors.

Also, while I’m not suggesting that the husband or wife who has the affair is in any way justified in doing so, a lot of the time the other spouse has helped to push them in that direction. My wife, Susan, and I often say, “In marriage, there are two people and two sides to every story.”

The same h

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Roland S. Martin

Roland Martin talks to Pastor Jamal D. Bryant after a controversial line in a sermon he preached a month ago, has caught wind and offended many.

Titled “I’m My Enemies Worst Nightmare: Part 1″,  Bryant references singer Chris Brown popular song “Loyal” and recites the songs chorus, ‘these hoes ain’t loyal’ in the pulpit.

“I’m shocked because out of 29 minutes I affirm women and their dreams and the influence they have on their men…I made a comment referencing a song by Chris

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Sermon Title: “I’m My Enemies Worst Nightmare”
Empowerment Temple Church
Pastor Jamal Harrison-Bryant

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“Remember that whatever you do in life, ninety percent of it is half mental.”
- Yogi Berra

In November of the tenth year of our marriage, Rhonda and I were discussing a sensitive issue that comes up every year: where we were going to spend Christmas.

By this time in our marriage, we knew which topics created sparks, and this was one of them. As a result, we were both armed for battle.

Rhonda responded to a statement I’d made by saying, “Now you’ve got an attitude. Stop talking to me like I’m a

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Consider these statistics of Christianity in America: Eighty-four percent of the inhabitants of this nation say they believe in the deity of Jesus Christ, according to Barna Group, and 45 percent claim to be born-again Christians. Other studies show it is closer to 33 percent.

Either way, these numbers are high. Seventy-seven percent believe their chances of going to heaven are excellent. Thirty-three percent believe one day everyone will go to heaven. Yet America has the highest percentage o

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This winter, phrases like “polar vortex” and “snowmageddon” became part of the American vernacular, and with good reason: The Free Press reports that many regions experienced record-breaking cold and snowfall, especially in the Eastern and Southern United States. Now that temperatures are finally starting to climb, one might expect Americans to stage a mass migration to sunny beaches or island resorts. There’s just one problem: Vacations are expensive and funds are in short supply.

A Harris In

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“Of course I have doubts. Without doubts, I wouldn’t need faith,” I replied to a dear colleague, Shane, who asked me if I ever have doubts.

I could see in his eyes he was carrying doubts during a difficult time of grief. He had just lost his wife to breast cancer.

“My doubts allow me to ask questions,” I continued. “Those questions lead to answers. They in turn strengthen my faith.”

Shane nodded while taking a bite out of his ham and cheese toasted sandwich at the local Strathpine Coffee Club

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