by Olawale Ogunsola
"But I want you to be without care.
He who is unmarried cares for the things of the Lord- how he may please the Lord.
But he who is married cares about the things of the world- how he may please his wife." 1 Corinthians 7:32-33.
A common desire of every female, irrespective of her age, is to have a "caring husband". This is good and worthy of being desired. Any responsible married man must be caring. Any man who is not ready to do this is not prepared to be married.
The Lord made it a law of relationship to His people, Israel of old, in Exodus 20:10,
"...he shall not diminish her food, her clothing, and her marriage rights." New King James Version.
Every matured man (read my article "Am I matured for marriage?") must be ready to care for his wife and children in obedience to the Lord.
To be caring is a direct product of love that a man has for his wife. It is true that hardly will one cares for what one does not love. What you do not love, you will not value and will not enjoy your care.
It is important to note that love between couples emanate ONLY from the love they have for the Lord, their Lord. This is LOVE INDEED. Any type that has its offshoot from another source is either lust or evil desire. This will not last for long and its end is disaster.
Now, does pleasing your wife entail doing so AT ALL COST?
No gainsaying the fact that Father Abraham was a lover of his wife, Mother Sarah. The woman was barren for a long period of time. It was sure that the man was not happy at this. He wanted to please his wife but to give a child is beyond his power.
One day, his wife came up with a "good idea" that she hoped would bring some form of happiness into her heart. She then demanded from her husband,
"See now, the Lord has restrained me from bearing children.
Please, go in to my maid; perhaps I shall obtain children by her." Genesis 16:2 .
Father Abraham, as a caring husband who wanted to please his wife welcomed the "good idea"; so, "...he went in to Hagar, and she conceived..." verse 4.
Within the household, this singular action bred animosity; it also exhibited the imperfect heart of Father Abraham towards his friend, God because the "good idea" was not God's idea.
Immediately after the going in and conception, the Almighty God complained to him,
"I am Almighty God, walk before Me and be blameless." Genesis 17:1. New King James Version.
God had purposed to multiply the couple in HIS OWN WAY and TIME. He said to Abraham,
"As for Sarai your wife, you shall not call her name Sarai, but Sarah shall be her name.
And I will bless her and also give you a son by her; then I will bless her, she shall be a mother of nations;
kings of people shall be from her." Genesis 17:15-16.
At the end of the day, God's plan came to pass fully.
Do you know that Abraham's attempt to please his wife created a lasting problem until today? The product (Ishmael) of Abraham and Hagar, the Egyptian maid had this destiny:
"He shall be a wild man,
his hand shall be against every man,
And every man's hand against him.
And he shall dwell in the presence of all his brethren" Genesis 16:12.
Until now, there are hot spots and restless areas in the world today and certain groups are causing troubles in nations just because sometime ago, a man wanted to please his wife.
It is right and needful to desire and determine to please your wife but do not forget that you must consider it very well if what your wife wants from you will surely, not perhaps, bring her desired joy. Will it also ensure your rightful place before the Almighty God is not shaking?
Finally, will it not bring others into trouble now or in future?
Therefore, consider very well whether or not you must please your wife at all costs.
Stay blessed and rapturable; the Lord is coming soon.
The Author is the set man of CTFM(WORLD OUTREACH)and Presiding Pastor of Christ Restland Gospel Church.He is a Poet and author of many books. Visit his blogsites www.4thlink.wordpress.com and www.peacelink.wordpress.com for more quality contents.
Yes indeed it is!