Brethren before I get into the context of this article, I want you to know I didn't write this to create any controversy.
Under the guidance and inspiration of the Holy Spirit, this article is written to remind women of how God wants us to be, rather than taking on the world's view. In writing this I am also ministering to myself.
Yes this can apply to all Christians, but this has been specifically written for women, as us ladies hold a special place in the church. We are relied upon quite a bit, and make up most of the congregation. Recently I have witnessed women becoming worldlier in terms of attitudes and attributes. There can be so much pressure for us to be everything for everyone that sometimes we don't know whether we're coming or going.
God understands our emotions, which is why He taught us in His Word how we should behave.
There are many scriptures that will teach us virtue or being a virtuous woman, such as proverbs thirty-one. Since I cannot write everything in this article, these are the three main tools to remaining virtuous.
1. Submission to Christ: - Recently I met with a Pastor friend of mine from Yorkshire, and his wife. He mentioned during a conversation, that he was sadden by the amount of women who 'throw,' themselves at him, even in front of his wife.
Unfortunately this is not unheard of and it is sad. We are not supposed to be like the proverbs chapter seven woman, this is not who God has created us to be. Remember leaders are human beings; they are a vessel chosen by God to do His work, just like you and I are but in a different calling.
Sisters in Christ I urge you to submit yourself to God first, and everything will fall into place, whether married or single.
When you submit yourself to God, you want to do things to please Him, you want do what is right. God will arrange everything in your life. He will fill in the gaps if you allow Him to. Once you submit to Christ, you remain the virtuous woman He wants you to be.
Scripture 'Humble yourselves, therefore, under God's mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time.' 1 Peter 5:6.
2. Let go of vanity and be modest: - I was in complete shock when I saw online videos of women given exaltations, wearing tops so low that you saw their bosoms. I have also seen videos of ladies in ministry competing with each other, i.e. who looks the best. Lets read, 'Don't be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewellery, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God. This is how the holy women of old made themselves beautiful.'
Please understand this is not a debate about make up, or outward appearances. Everyone has a view; I personally don't see anything wrong with it in moderation.
What we must not allow is vanity to overtake the beauty of Christ within us. The worlds and God standard of beauty is completely different. God's standard of beauty is inside, allowing His Spirit and characteristic to overtake the flesh. As we just read the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit. The world standard of beauty is outside.
Sisters in Christ we are not in competition or conflict with each other. Instead we must exalt one another help each other grow spiritually. Your beauty comes from within, in fact it mainly comes from Christ, you don't have to drop to the worldly definition of beauty, we belong to God. Remain virtuous.
3. Being a helper, supporter: - 'The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him." Genesis 2:18.
Nowadays it is very rare that we associate ourselves with the word 'helper,' however when you read virtuous women in the Bible such as Sarah, Ruth, and even Queen Esther these women were helpers, especially to their husbands, Eve was created to be Adam's helper.
Now that is not to say that women shouldn't run with the vision and ministry that God has given them, there are many women that are called into ministry and yes you can't do everything for everybody, but never be ashamed to be a helper. I may be in business, but I am still a helper, and I am not ashamed to admit that. I am not ashamed to admit what society has called me to be. Sometimes we can get consumed with our own ministries and pursuits that we refuse to take on the service role.
Being a helper I believe is a special role, there is nothing like serving others, this is what God has called us to do, 'Galatians 5:13 "For you were called to freedom, brothers. Only do not use your freedom as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another."
Sisters let's get back into check. I believe many of us have been living by standards of how society expects us to be, for far too long. Whether you're single, married, separated, divorced or a single parent this still applies to you. Let's go back to God way, remain virtuous.
Vanessa Grossett is a Literary Agent, and contributing writer for multi award winning Keep The Faith Magazine. She is also Outstanding Business Woman Finalist of 2017, visit www.theauthorscare.co.uk