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Being a single mother is hard and when you have a special needs child it is even harder. As the child’s mother you are with him most of the time and you learn his mannerism and his behavioral red flags. In today’s world it is hard being a parent period but when you are a single parent it is twice as hard. I am raising a son so my job will be extremely trying at times. My son does have male roles models but they are not as close as I would hope. My brother just moved to Ohio to be with his fiancé and her son. My father (Damian’s Grandfather) works three jobs and lives kind of far away. His dad is not in the picture because of a choice he decided to make (long story). My job is hard because Damian is special needs, not mentally but physically. He has to see specialist including a neurologist and must have occupational and speech therapy. He is two years old and extremely smart and I am so thankful to God that I am in a position to stay at home with him a lot so I can see exactly what is going on with him and not rely on others to tell me about my child. I noticed things were not right with him a long time ago and it take some encourage from a loving Aunt for me to finally admit that he needed to been seen for his physical issues. It is extremely hard for me to work because I have so many appointments I need to attend. I am going to school to get my masters and currently trying to become a certified teacher. I have a lot of things going on in my life and only a few people close to me truly know what is going on in my life. I know that God has great things in store for me and that it will take time to get to where I want to be. I am grateful for what I am going through because it is making me a better person and my relationship with God is growing stronger every day. We actually have a relationship now that is not just a show. I used to go to church and just wave my hand and gave the occasional amen but now every time I think about the goodness of God and how far He has brought my son and me, I feel joy and so blessed. I know this journey will not be easy and we have a long way go but with God on our side we can make. There are not a lot of places to go and get help especially emotional or mentally but the few friends that I do let in really have offered encouragement, so I say thank you for not judging but just being there.

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Comment by TyAonna on February 4, 2011 at 3:32am: No problem. Anytime!

Comment by Miyosha Daniel on February 3, 2011 at 2:01pm: Thanks for the words of encouragement

Comment by TyAonna on February 3, 2011 at 4:43am: I have been gone for a minute so I am just having the chance to respond to this.

I would just like to encourage you to keep the faith. You seem to be doing all the right things to better your life as well as your son's life and through Jesus all things are possible.

My mother basically raised all 3 of us by herself. She worked hard to provide for us but worked even harder to make the time to be in our lives even through her hardships. My younger brother has epilespy and my older brother had a rare leg disease that caused him to have to have several surgeries growing up. When I look back on those things, I could not imagine the stress that must have been on her. But I never heard her complain. She simply did what was needed to survive. Even if survive meant just getting through one day just to make it to the next and do it all over again.

My best friend just had a baby and I know things have been hard on her because her son's father has not been in the picture but when I asked her shortly before the baby was born if she was okay with raising her son on her own, she did not hesitate in answering yes. I really do admire that.

In this life we have to look to God for all of our strength. For when we seek Him with a humble heart, He blesses us beyond measure.

Thank you again for sharing and know that The Oracle is a family and we are always here for you!

Comment by Prince Malachi The First on January 30, 2011 at 10:57pm: I have a lot of respect for the women would there raising men all by their self. Other then GOD you are his most important relationship. Raising a man is not easy, but I know the closer you get to GOD the more strength you will have.I just lost my dad and you know what, he was not perfect but I was blessed to have him. He was hard on me and now that he is gone I see why. I couldn't imagine life without my dad there so I feel for your son. It really upsets me to know that his father is not there like he should be. I really feel that one of the reasons we have the issues we have in the black community is becouse the fathers are not where they need to be!

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