“Our culture teaches us to speak our mind, voice our opinion, post our Instagram story and say what we think, and many people tend to think being loud is strength. Being loud verses being soft is not strength, but rather meekness, humility and gentleness is strength. ” christi given
Our flesh wants to retaliate, to fight back, to argue, to get angry, to yell and dominate, but what would Jesus do? As women, we really need to walk in the spirit of grace and gentleness. God calls the men to be gentle, and we as ladies also need to be godly and Christlike with good fruit representing the spirit. We should consider the timing of when lay down our opinions, the lust to be right or “just”, or to have the final word.
“Even a fool is considered wise if he keeps silent, and discerning when he holds his tongue.” (Proverbs 17:28)
The Bible tells us that there is actually great strength and wisdom in quietness, calmness, and gentleness. Christ didn’t explain himself to many people and he wasn’t loud or shouting his greatness. Even Christ going to the cross was a lamb being led to the slaughter. He could have boasted in his power but he glorified the Father and he stayed humbled even in washing the disciples feet.
“You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God.” (1 Peter 3:4)
Self-control is also a fruit of the spirit and when we are gentle verses harsh, we honor God. Our life is our act of worship, and what we say speaks volumes about our heart condition. If we lash out in our flesh or emotions, we are indicating we do not have a reign on our spirit or we are not really genuine in what we are claiming to believe at times.
Do you doubt God’s goodness? Do you feel angry at your family or friends and do you wrestle with gentleness or turning the other cheek? We must remember Jesus instructs us to even love our enemies. The Bible says we cannot depend on man or human beings but only in Jesus Christ. When we place our heart or trust into a creature we will inevitably get disappointed. We’re called to be content in God and gentle to those around us, even despite the storm that is raging around us.
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.” (Galatians 5:22-23)
Do you seek to have the fruits of the Holy Spirit that are love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control? Ask God to help you to carry and to possess the fruits of the spirit and evaluate where you are operating in the works of the flesh.