Do you ever feel like you want a break from marriage or relationships? Do you ever experience a time when you want to step back, experience peace and quiet, and just reflect?
Most would answer these questions with a resounding ‘YES.’
Most would say they are desperate for some peace and quiet, some time apart from the challenges of raising children, fighting with their mate or ongoing drama with friends and family. They want to think clearly again, free from the emotional and physical pain that emotional stress brings. They wish for relationship detoxification.
While not a medical specialist, detoxification refers to the medical and physiological process of removal of toxic substances from your body so that the body can return to homeostasis (balance).
Okay, let’s consider how this process could be helpful to our emotional life.
Consider the woman who has lived in an environment of emotional abuse for years. She has had her words turned on her, been made to feel inadequate and “crazy,” has subsequently begun to doubt herself and has lost self-esteem and confidence. She lives in fear and has long since lost any sense of homeostasis.
Consider the man who has lived for years in an environment of trying thanklessly to please his wife. He has endured years of criticism, forever feeling inadequate, fearing when the next emotional tirade would occur. He walks on eggshells and has long since lost any sense of homeostasis.
Finally, consider the child who has no voice over how life is lived. He/she hopes beyond hope that today will be peaceful, that his/her parents will somehow not fight today. He/she has long since lost any sense of homeostasis.
I do not have to convince you of the debilitating impact of any of these circumstances, agreeably dramatic and harmful. Perhaps your situation is not this extreme, but you have episodes of harmful behavior. You experience ‘cycles’ of emotional abuse. You never know when the next episode is going to occur. This can be just as destructive.
Consider how relationship detoxification can be helpful to you and how these suggestions might assist you in rediscovering homeostasis.
Source: Crosswalk | Dr. David Hawkins