Maybe there are a few (and I do mean a few) people who can say that they have never been hit on before but for those who cannot say that, I would like to discuss a matter that has bothered me as of late.

I got married in August. Marriage has always been very important to me.

Before that, naturally, I was engaged. Before that, he and I dated off and on. And before and/or inbetween he and I dating, I dated other men. Glad your caught up on my dating life.

Now. When I was simply dating another person and a man would flirt with me, I would tell him I was in a relationship and either the convo ended OR they would say things like, "Well, you should leave that boy and get with this man." or "But we can still chill though." I know. I know. Lamest lines ever ladies!

But it never really bothered me as much. I mean after all, men were designed to chase us women right?

Yet now that I am married it has been urking me. It is one thing when we exchange words, you decide to make a move before I hold up my hand to show you a ring. But once you see that, one would think that would make you back off. That hasn't happened as of recent. In fact they get more persistant!

I had the conversation with my husband yesterday after the incident because I wanted his take on it. I told him I just didn't get this "understood, never spoken about or written but everyone knows" double standard. He said he didn't either and then told me that to (some) men, a wedding ring on a woman's finger is meaningless.

Meaningless?! The symbol of love that is so sacred is meaningless?! I was, correction, I am baffled.

I have seen before when a man has treated a random woman a certain way but would not dare treat a female he loves, like his Mother, that way. Such is true in this instance. I know men that have talked to and/or dated married women but once that man left those ways behind, he would knock another man clean out over talking to/trying to date his wife. Why? Now that you are married you don't expect another man to do the same thing to your wife? Some would call that the universe coming back around. I just say that's God's way of teaching you a lesson...

But enough with all of the imagery. I said all of that to get to this convo. I spoke with another male yesterday about the subject at hand and his response? "It's not a double standard. It's a lack of morals. Men with morals don't do that." And I agree totally.

I wasn't going to but my husband suggested I blog about it. I had thought about it before he made the statement but had ruled it out. But I have concluded that I am interested in getting others opinions on the subject.

So. A wedding ring. Does it really stop men (and women for sake of being fair) from going after another?    

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